Contribution and Reciprocity in Society can be Done in many Forms

Contribution and Reciprocity in Society can be Done in many Forms

Both Tom and I talk a lot about the contribution to society. With our friends. In our blog posts. In our Facebook posts. In my Facebook lives. Most of the time this is about volunteering in some way or another. But there are many other ways.

Reciprocity in society is a common gesture. A neighbor smiles at us and next time when they are not at home, we collect their delivered goods from the courier.

Society is built on written and unwritten laws. Some are evident. You do not enter another person’s house without an invitation. Others are less obvious. For example, when you borrow your neighbors’ chainsaw, they might expect you to be extra careful when you use it.

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Age Related Health Conditions that may be Prevented with Exercise

Age Related Health Conditions that may be Prevented with Exercise

Moving to a warmer climate did a great deal of good for my arthritis. And so did my exercises. Not just the specific exercises for my hands, but also the stretching, weight training, swimming, and walking.

There are 4 age-related health conditions that figure in my exercise zone: arthritis, cancer, heart disease, and mental health conditions. My diverse routine exercise program, with cardiovascular exercise, strength training, and stretching, is aimed at preventing these conditions to materialize or worsen.

Due to the current pandemic, I added a fifth health condition to my list: COVID-19. This is the disease you get from the SARS-CoV-2-virus. This disease is specifically dangerous for frail and vulnerable people. This disease made me realize the more that exercise also strengthens our immune system. The best prevention against any virus.

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Are You Grateful Today? Being Grateful Everyday Pays Off

Are You Grateful Today? Being Grateful Everyday Pays Off

As a kid, I had to pray before meals and every night before sleep. As a rebellious teenager, I really didn’t feel like it anymore. Are you grateful today? Why does that matter?

In my twenties, I even deregistered from the Catholic parish. Seeing that misery in Northern Ireland or the Middle East, for example, only because one party believed in a different God than the other party. Not for me.

As a consequence, praying was off-limits for me as well.

I still don’t pray. Yet nowadays, I do express my gratitude for my life, for my husband, my family, and all other good things that happen to me on a daily basis.

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Is Happiness the Key to be Successful or Vice Versa?

Is Happiness the Key to be Successful or Vice Versa?

Is happiness the key to be successful or is success the key to be happy? It probably depends on who you ask this question. If you ask me, I say happiness comes first. But if you would have asked my Dad he would have said success is the main thing.

The mother of my father had to raise 6 children on her own during the crisis of the 30s because my grandfather died young. So my father had a job from age 12.

He was determined to study and work himself up to a better position. He went to night school and became a very skilled metalworker. During World War II he was imprisoned in an Arbeitslager in Germany. My father always claimed this hadn’t been too bad because he found refuge in his profession and could perfect his skill there.

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Make a Daily Intention – Happiness is Living on Purpose

Make a Daily Intention - Happiness is Living on Purpose

Having a purpose in life, is a guarantee to make you feel happy. Haven’t we all experienced times in our life we were working on something and had to force ourselves to stop for the day? And couldn’t wait to continue the next day.

A lot of people only experience this as a kid and forget all about it in adult life. Having a purposeful daily intention can bring that feeling back.

Tom and I always loved our job. On the rare occasions when that was not the case, we resigned. And later, when we were entrepreneurs, we didn’t work with clients who were too stressful.

Some friends and acquaintances said, almost enviously, that we were lucky. While we felt that we were just working for it. Yet, it was in an unconscious way. That changed later by using some tools. This article is about how you can give meaning to a daily intention.

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How to Increase Longevity: Challenge Yourself to be Absolutely Happy

How to Increase Longevity: Challenge Yourself to be Absolutely Happy

If you are looking for ways how to increase longevity in a sustainable way the best method is: choose to be happy! It’s easier said than done, I know. Yet I also know from experience that choosing to be happy really is a possibility.

Through the years everybody encounters hardship. It’s part of life. The big question is: how do you react to these moments of need. 

  • Will you sit in a corner and feel sorry for yourself?    
  • Do you ignore that something is the matter? 
  • Or will you grab yourself by the shoulders and shake yourself up?

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Walking for Health Benefits that will Reward You Immediately

Walking for Health Benefits that will Reward You Immediately

I have never been the sportive type. My husband Tom and I did an occasional walk during the week and for me that was enough. Until I sprained my ankle. The physiotherapist hammered into me that walking for health reasons is not a luxury, but a necessity. I really should take it more seriously.

He was right of course. There are so many benefits from something as simple as walking that I considered myself not too smart postponing it for such a long time. Nowadays I am addicted. 🙂

The benefits listed here are not only achieved through walking, but through any kind of exercise.

The main advantages of walking are that it is easy to do, cheap, as you don’t need an expensive gym subscription, and that it has a relatively low impact on the joints of our body.

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10 Remarkable Health Benefits of Laughing and a Sense of Humor

10 Remarkable Health Benefits of Laughing and a Sense of Humor

The first time I heard about the health benefits of laughing was at a health seminar. The story went like this:

A man heard from his doctor that further treatment of his cancer was of no use and that his life prospects were about 3 months. He had a lot of money and no heirs, so he decided to spend his last days as pleasant as possible. 

He took up residence in a penthouse of a hotel with full board and access to the Humor Channel and watched funny movies and stand up comedians all day long.

After 3 months he was still alive. And also the next 3 months passed by without anything of importance happening. So he ran out of money, was kindly asked to pay the bill or else to leave the hotel, and returned to the hospital for a check-up.

His cancer was gone.

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Unexpected Secrets for a Happy Marriage

Unexpected Secrets for a Happy Marriage

Tom and I celebrated our 45th anniversary last Saturday. For a long time we hardly celebrated our anniversaries, which isn’t very smart. Because if we don’t celebrate our successes and acknowledge them, we diminish them. That’s one of the secrets for a happy marriage: celebrate!

Being together for such a long time and still being curious about each other and love and respecting each other can be marked as quite an accomplishment.

This year was special, because we had to deal with a Fase 1 Flexibilizada lockdown and its restrictions. We used to eat out on our wedding anniversary day, but during the lockdown the restaurants are partly closed. They are only allowed to open the terrace, not the inside, and we don’t want to be on the terrace with smokers all around us.

We did go out though – we went to the bakery for bread and en passant we took tea with cake in a corner.

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What is the Meaning of a Personal Legacy? Being remembered for . . .

What is the Meaning of a Personal Legacy?

In the past I have been a caregiver. The last 10 years of my father’s life for both my parents. And after his passing another 10 years for my mother. The periods after their deaths were intensive times of reflection. 

What is the meaning of a personal legacy? What do I remember most about my parents? And as a consequence: what do I want to be remembered for later?

We probably all want to be remembered for great deeds, but are we actually setting anything in motion that indeed is great? How big are our dreams and what efforts do we take to accomplish them?

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