What is the Meaning of a Personal Legacy? Being remembered for . . .

What is the Meaning of a Personal Legacy?

In the past I have been a caregiver. The last 10 years of my father’s life for both my parents. And after his passing another 10 years for my mother. The periods after their deaths were intensive times of reflection. 

What is the meaning of a personal legacy? What do I remember most about my parents? And as a consequence: what do I want to be remembered for later?

We probably all want to be remembered for great deeds, but are we actually setting anything in motion that indeed is great? How big are our dreams and what efforts do we take to accomplish them?

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Healthy Lifestyle: Exercising without the Gym is not Difficult

Healthy Lifestyle: Exercising without the Gym is not Difficult

This good advice is constantly thrown at you: make sure you exercise. At least half an hour a day. Tom and I say it regularly on this website as well. Exercising is good for your health, for your brain and for your overall well-being.

If you only link exercising to ‘the gym’, this message can overwhelm you. Because do you want to be at the gym every day? Or do you even have a gym in your surroundings?

But it’s not that hard. Exercising without the gym is a piece of cake. Really. Even if you are housebound, like during a lockdown because of the virus.

You don’t have to exhaust yourself to the point of collapse. Just make sure to make a move that you are already doing with a little more force or effort. Until the moment when talking becomes difficult because of the panting.

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Effective Communication between Couples, Young or Aging

Effective Communication between Couples, Young or Aging

I guess everybody does it; sitting on a terrace and watching other people’s behavior? I love it, especially when something happens of which you know the outcome before it occurs. 🙂

I knew when I heard the elderly couple arguing about which way to go, he would have it his way and she would be right in the end. So she reluctantly followed him and after 100 meter plus another argument they turned around and passed us again going in the opposite direction. 

It wasn’t a very effective communication between couples. He didn’t want to listen to her and was only focused on having it his way. She was obviously not capable of talking to him in a way that would convince him without giving him the idea he was stupid.

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What is the Best Food for Energy?

What is the Best Food for Energy?

When we go shopping or walk into town, the temptation of fast food and quick snacks is lurking for us. We are wired for sweet and salt, because for our ancestors these flavors were scarce, yet provided a lot of calories and nutrients. Our environment changed drastically, but our taste didn’t keep pace with that change.

Fast food has a lot of refined sugars and empty calories. If ‘yummy’ is our only criterion to choose food, we won’t feel that ‘yummy’ ourselves over time.

Food with a load of calories, sugar and fat cost a lot of energy to digest. If you often feel tired, it might be a good idea to adjust your diet. Find out what the best food for energy is for you. There will surely be a couple of foods in the list that you like and to which your body responds well.

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Healthy Lifestyle: What are the Dangers of Sitting too Long and too Much?

Healthy Lifestyle: What are the Dangers of Sitting too Long and too Much?

We don’t have to make an effort for 2 of the – probably most – deadly factors for an aging person: sitting too long and loneliness. I wrote about turning loneliness actively around in How to make friends when you are older? And this article is about the dangers of sitting too long and how to prevent it.

Ever since I have my Oura ring I am aware of how much I spend my time sitting. Even though I consider myself an active person. Originally I bought the ring to give me insights in my sleep, but the ring collects a lot more data. Not just my active time, but also the inactive time.

Before wearing my ring I would have guessed my sitting time is about 8 hours a day. All the statistics say that is a healthy maximum. It turned out my average was an awful between 12 to 13 hours!

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3 Healthy Breakfast recipes, although not for everybody

3 Healthy Breakfast recipes, although not for everybody

For 40+ years I had breakfast with solely fruit and a little fruit juice. You might think that is boring, but as the seasons change, the fruit choice changes as well. Because we only eat twice a day since a year or so, I wanted to change my breakfast to eat varied enough.

Searching “Healthy breakfast recipes” didn’t at first offer me the kind of breakfasts I was looking for. But determination always pays off as you know, so now I have added 2 breakfasts to the one I had. And I am still looking for variations.

Why is it so hard for me to decide on other breakfasts? Well, as I have described earlier I was raised on bread and sweets. Maybe, if I try really hard, I could eat an American or English breakfast, but at the moment the thought alone gives me the creeps. As I am sure that Anglo Saxons will shiver by the thought of eating just bread. Or fruit.

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What are 7 Healthy Eating Habits when You want to Be Active?

Healthy Eating Habits?

In the Netherlands, when we were children, we ate 2 sandwiches with chocolate sprinkles or peanut butter for breakfast. The same for lunch. And at the end of the day between 5 and 6 pm the warm meal: potatoes, meat and vegetables.

The same every day.

Later, when Tom and I had our son and wanted to be a healthy family, we changed some of these habits. Only fruits for breakfast, sandwiches with cheese for lunch and more variation for the evening meals, alternating the usual Dutch food with rice, pasta, salads and such. Changing the time to a hipper 7 to 8pm.

It is obvious that the heavy stuff was digested at night. Now that we are aging we have a completely different opinion about whether that are healthy eating habits. We want to be both active and sleep well. Food plays an important role in accomplishing that.

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How to make friends when you are older?

How to make friends when you are older?

Years ago, when all my friends were either occupied by working very hard or by doting on grandchildren and babysitting them, I was convinced I needed new friends. I was equally convinced it’s impossible to make friends when you are older!

Negative or limiting beliefs serve nobody. And being convinced it is not possible to do something is a sure guarantee I won’t be able to do it. Duh. I am so glad I was wrong, but I only realized this when I read some posts in one of the Facebook groups I am in.

This is a group with a lot of single or widowed women and the topic often is solitude and loneliness. And I do realize my position is privileged, because I am happily married. For 45 years, so I can in no way imagine how I would feel when I would be alone.

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What is Passive Income anyway? Have you ever heard of it?

What is Passive Income anyway?

Some 8 years ago I was attending a business seminar and suddenly I pricked up my ears. What? What was he saying? The topic was Income and passive income was mentioned as one of the possibilities.

Until then, I had never heard of the phrase and for a while I kept wondering “What is passive income anyway?”

It was a solid business seminar and the question was answered thoroughly that day. Ever since I was intrigued and have tried several possibilities. I love learning new stuff and this was new to me. Although… not completely new, because unaware of the terminology I had been making a couple of passive income streams. 🙂

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How to sleep better and faster when you’re aging

How to sleep better and faster when you’re aging
I like these orange glasses because I can put them over my much-needed prescribed glasses.

For years I browsed the internet and read books about how to sleep better and faster. Although I am still not the gold medal winner of sleepers, my sleep did improve. And now that I am aging I am more and more convinced it is very important to sleep deep and long enough.

One of the fears of a lot of aging people is to get dementia. It sure is one of my fears. My father, grandmother and an aunt had Alzheimer’s. One of the reasons people can get it is through sleep deprivation. My father has been in shift work for years. Of course nobody knows if this was the cause why he got the disease.

Alzheimer’s is believed not to be hereditary. So it is not said that I shall have it. But as you can understand I want to do everything in my power to prevent it actively. 

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