Healthy Lifestyle: Exercising without the Gym is not Difficult

Healthy Lifestyle: Exercising without the Gym is not Difficult

This good advice is constantly thrown at you: make sure you exercise. At least half an hour a day. Tom and I say it regularly on this website as well. Exercising is good for your health, for your brain and for your overall well-being.

If you only link exercising to ‘the gym’, this message can overwhelm you. Because do you want to be at the gym every day? Or do you even have a gym in your surroundings?

But it’s not that hard. Exercising without the gym is a piece of cake. Really. Even if you are housebound, like during a lockdown because of the virus.

You don’t have to exhaust yourself to the point of collapse. Just make sure to make a move that you are already doing with a little more force or effort. Until the moment when talking becomes difficult because of the panting.

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Effective Communication between Couples, Young or Aging

Effective Communication between Couples, Young or Aging

I guess everybody does it; sitting on a terrace and watching other people’s behavior? I love it, especially when something happens of which you know the outcome before it occurs. 🙂

I knew when I heard the elderly couple arguing about which way to go, he would have it his way and she would be right in the end. So she reluctantly followed him and after 100 meter plus another argument they turned around and passed us again going in the opposite direction. 

It wasn’t a very effective communication between couples. He didn’t want to listen to her and was only focused on having it his way. She was obviously not capable of talking to him in a way that would convince him without giving him the idea he was stupid.

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Healthy Lifestyle: What are the Dangers of Sitting too Long and too Much?

Healthy Lifestyle: What are the Dangers of Sitting too Long and too Much?

We don’t have to make an effort for 2 of the – probably most – deadly factors for an aging person: sitting too long and loneliness. I wrote about turning loneliness actively around in How to make friends when you are older? And this article is about the dangers of sitting too long and how to prevent it.

Ever since I have my Oura ring I am aware of how much I spend my time sitting. Even though I consider myself an active person. Originally I bought the ring to give me insights in my sleep, but the ring collects a lot more data. Not just my active time, but also the inactive time.

Before wearing my ring I would have guessed my sitting time is about 8 hours a day. All the statistics say that is a healthy maximum. It turned out my average was an awful between 12 to 13 hours!

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How to make friends when you are older?

How to make friends when you are older?

Years ago, when all my friends were either occupied by working very hard or by doting on grandchildren and babysitting them, I was convinced I needed new friends. I was equally convinced it’s impossible to make friends when you are older!

Negative or limiting beliefs serve nobody. And being convinced it is not possible to do something is a sure guarantee I won’t be able to do it. Duh. I am so glad I was wrong, but I only realized this when I read some posts in one of the Facebook groups I am in.

This is a group with a lot of single or widowed women and the topic often is solitude and loneliness. And I do realize my position is privileged, because I am happily married. For 45 years, so I can in no way imagine how I would feel when I would be alone.

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26 Ways to Spend your Time before Breakfast

The way you spend your time before breakfast sets the tone for the rest of the day. It even influences the way you will sleep at night. 

Especially in these challenging times of the Coronavirus it’s tempting to get sloppy. But I can assure you from my own experience that when you give in to feeling down it is the start of a slippery slope downwards. You will not care about your plans anymore, about how you look or about what you eat and drink.

What works in your favor? What will work against it?

Spend your time before breakfast doing some exercises

One of every three mobile owners looks at their phone during the night. Almost 50% of people look at their mobile first thing in the morning. In reality this means that other people – the journalists of the news or the ones sending you whatsapps or emails – decide what your mood will be.

For instance, you get frustrated because the news isn’t good (as it never is, because otherwise it wouldn’t have made it to the news). 

Or someone asks for your help. And now you’re distracted to think of ways to comply. Mind you, it’s great that someone cares enough about you to ask for help. And you should help. But most of the time it’s not good to be informed in the middle of the night or in the early morning. You’d better start the day right and help yourself first.

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Is true happiness possible in times like this?

Is true happiness possible in times like this?

These are trying times. With many people in lockdown, this is a major drain on our mental health. Even when life hasn’t changed that much, like Tom’s and mine, it is obvious that the mere fact we can’t do as we please causes discomfort and confusion.

Is true happiness possible in times like this? I think it is, but let’s be honest and realistic – it asks for more effort.

Effort? Isn’t being happy not just something you are or are not?

Many people who struggle in life often belittle happiness and like to claim that true happiness is not even possible at all. Trying times or not. 

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Happiness is more than thinking positive thoughts

What have neuromarketing and epigenetics to do with happiness and positive thoughts

When someone asks me “What defines your happiness?”, then for me it’s often studying and learning new things. Last year my focus point was neuromarketing. This year it is epigenetics

Those 2 disciplines both have the primal brain as their object of study. Neuromarketing got my interest from a business point of view, where epigenetics triggers me on a personal level.

Epigenetics is a new discipline that studies the influence of our environment and our behavior on the activation of genes. It shows that anything we do, eat, drink or think can make us stronger or weaker. 

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Exercise over 60: living a healthy lifestyle

Exercise over 60: living a healthy lifestyle

2020 didn’t start exactly perfect for me. First on January 1 I fell during our walk, then a couple of days later a severe kind of flu attacked me. I managed to do a Facebook Live, fully convinced my old trick was helping me, and collapsed into bed for 2 weeks. 

This trick, that has helped me for years, is a mantra I start thinking quietly or out loud as soon as I am meeting someone who is ill: “I am healthy, I am healthy…”

Although living a healthy lifestyle counts for something as well, don’t you think?

Someone remarked “Well, so much for your healthy lifestyle”. And of course I was disappointed, feeling miserable and cloudy. Yet, I am still optimistic. Because I compare my life nowadays and my sick days, with when I was younger. Back then I was ill almost all the time.

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Have you ever thought of ballroom dancing as a form of exercise?

ballroom dancing as a form of exercise

My parents used to go to Benidorm every year for 8 months. So I would visit them at least once every winter season. My mother loved walking through the surf and most of the times I would accompany her then.

When we walked in the morning everything was quiet, but if we were late and it was already afternoon, we would hear music long before we were on the boulevard. This music came from several big cafes where they had cleared the center of tables and chairs to create an empty spot that served as a dance floor.

Every afternoon the places were crowded with elderly people enjoying themselves hugely with foxtrots, waltzes and other ballroom dances.

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A great way to beat depression

Walking even when it's difficult

Depression is a huge problem in nowadays society. Both young and old can suffer an overwhelming sense of helplessness and anxiety. 

If you are a cynic you could say people just have too much time to worry. A remark that doesn’t help anybody, nor is it true in my opinion.

This article explains why exercise is a great way to beat depression. Other articles like Why you have to allow yourself to experience your emotions and Being grateful everyday pays off approach the subject from a different angle.

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