Unexpected Secrets for a Happy Marriage

Unexpected Secrets for a Happy Marriage

Tom and I celebrated our 45th anniversary last Saturday. For a long time we hardly celebrated our anniversaries, which isn’t very smart. Because if we don’t celebrate our successes and acknowledge them, we diminish them. That’s one of the secrets for a happy marriage: celebrate!

Being together for such a long time and still being curious about each other and love and respecting each other can be marked as quite an accomplishment.

This year was special, because we had to deal with a Fase 1 Flexibilizada lockdown and its restrictions. We used to eat out on our wedding anniversary day, but during the lockdown the restaurants are partly closed. They are only allowed to open the terrace, not the inside, and we don’t want to be on the terrace with smokers all around us.

We did go out though – we went to the bakery for bread and en passant we took tea with cake in a corner.

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Is true happiness possible in times like this?

Is true happiness possible in times like this?

These are trying times. With many people in lockdown, this is a major drain on our mental health. Even when life hasn’t changed that much, like Tom’s and mine, it is obvious that the mere fact we can’t do as we please causes discomfort and confusion.

Is true happiness possible in times like this? I think it is, but let’s be honest and realistic – it asks for more effort.

Effort? Isn’t being happy not just something you are or are not?

Many people who struggle in life often belittle happiness and like to claim that true happiness is not even possible at all. Trying times or not. 

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Being grateful everyday pays off

being grateful

The other day I had a really bad mood. Almost the whole day. When I was finally able to shrug off my anger, I realized it’s very rare nowadays that my bad moods last for such a long period.

In my journal I write down on a daily basis all the things I am grateful for. As with everything new this was harder in the beginning then it is now. It used to cost me a lot of energy to think of even one thing I was grateful for. Now a list of 5 to 10 items is an easy job to write down at the end of the day.

Tell others you are grateful for them

My communication style is controller. I like to go from A to B in a straight line and move on after I get there. Resulting in being way too brusque for some people and unintentionally hurting them.

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Healthy Lifestyle: 25 Tips to Celebrate your Leisure Time

1. Spend time with your better half

Healthy Lifestyle: 25 Tips to Celebrate your Leisure Time

Both my husband and I were solo entrepreneurs working from home. Being in the same building the whole day is no guarantee you really connect to each other. Nowadays, after our move to Spain, we still spend a lot of time solo in our study rooms. Every day we make it an effort to do things together with full attention for each other.

2. Leisure time playing

Play a game with your (grand)kid, a friend or with the neighbor kid. Fool around with things you find. Try to remember what the movements were of old nursery rhymes and relive them.

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