Stick to your goal
When I was young I weighed 50 kg. With my height of 1.72 m that hardly was sufficient and I often had black spots in my eyes when I rose from a squatting or sitting position.
After my pregnancy this changed dramatically. I was happy I had gained 20 to 25 kg and that I didn’t lose it after giving birth to my son.
The menopause brought another change. Suddenly I saw myself in the mirror with a bloated head. I had gained too much weight and it showed. When I finally had the nerve to weigh myself, the scale showed an unwanted 86 kg.
Copy my mother?
Following the example of my mother, I got into dieting. And forgot dieting when I came close to the targeted 75 kg. And got into dieting again. And so forth. This has a name, I’ve discovered. The yo-yo effect.
Several years ago, I thought I could do better. No more rigorous diets, no more quick fixes, but nice and easy cutting back on sweets and alcohol and doing more exercises. And stop combining carbohydrates with fats.
Oh, what’s the big deal, just this once
I lost one kilo per month and was very proud of myself. I did not feel hungry. Occasionally I ate cake with my coffee or bought a bottle of wine. Steadily I went towards my goal of 75 kg. I was almost there…
And then came my birthday! Not everyone wanted the delicious pie, so I ate most of that myself. The wine I had bought for the visitors was not finished at the end of the day. And I got a couple of bottles of wine as a present.
So instead of sinning just one day, I sinned a whole week. And because the scale kept on showing 75 the first week after my birthday, I had the illusion that it did not matter.
Why does one pound of sweets or alcohol add three pounds to your body?
Of course it matters. In fact a lot, because it is all mindset. If I have the idea that it does not matter, I get sloppy. And “suddenly” I gain 3 kg. Ruining a quarter of a year’s work in a single week.
Back to the setting of a goal
Back to basics. I did not beat myself up, like I used to do. And picked up my goal of 75 kg. Mindset is everything and I knew I could do it.
This yo-yo-ing kept on going for several times. When I got the message that my cholesterol was too high my weight was again the undesirable 86 kg.
Several reasons made sure that this time I did better:
- My husband joined me in trying to lose weight.
- We wanted to lose weight very slow.
- We didn’t call it a diet but a change of lifestyle.
- We planned to keep this lifestyle for the rest of our lives.
I passed the original goal of 75 kg within a year. To my surprise this turned out not to be my ideal weight, because I kept on losing kilos.
After another year passed by I reached 65 kg. Which stayed my weight for months in a row.
And still is, so I consider this to be my ideal weight.