Is Happiness the Key to be Successful or Vice Versa?

Is Happiness the Key to be Successful or Vice Versa?

Is happiness the key to be successful or is success the key to be happy? It probably depends on who you ask this question. If you ask me, I say happiness comes first. But if you would have asked my Dad he would have said success is the main thing.

The mother of my father had to raise 6 children on her own during the crisis of the 30s because my grandfather died young. So my father had a job from age 12.

He was determined to study and work himself up to a better position. He went to night school and became a very skilled metalworker. During World War II he was imprisoned in an Arbeitslager in Germany. My father always claimed this hadn’t been too bad because he found refuge in his profession and could perfect his skill there.

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Are We Losing the Battle against the COVID-19 Virus?

Are We Losing the Battle against the COVID-19 Virus?

The battle against the covid-19 virus was from the beginning not centered on the problems of the people really suffering. Everybody hoped a vaccine would solve their personal problems. Such as not being able to go to work or to school or the theater or a bar or restaurant.

The way the virus behaved though puzzled me: Why do we concentrate on a vaccine when most people do not suffer from the virus, even when they are infected? Why vaccinate everybody, when most people do not suffer from the virus? Why close all businesses, schools and public gatherings? Why wear masks? Why wreck the economy?

Nobody seemed to ponder about the most fundamental question. Why don’t we focus on the perspective of the end of the pipeline? This end being that only a limited number of affected people suffer proportionally much more than the majority. Nobody suggested the end of the pipeline as the strategic focus of pandemic policies.

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How to make friends when you are older?

How to make friends when you are older?

Years ago, when all my friends were either occupied by working very hard or by doting on grandchildren and babysitting them, I was convinced I needed new friends. I was equally convinced it’s impossible to make friends when you are older!

Negative or limiting beliefs serve nobody. And being convinced it is not possible to do something is a sure guarantee I won’t be able to do it. Duh. I am so glad I was wrong, but I only realized this when I read some posts in one of the Facebook groups I am in.

This is a group with a lot of single or widowed women and the topic often is solitude and loneliness. And I do realize my position is privileged, because I am happily married. For 45 years, so I can in no way imagine how I would feel when I would be alone.

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26 Ways to Spend your Time before Breakfast

The way you spend your time before breakfast sets the tone for the rest of the day. It even influences the way you will sleep at night. 

Especially in these challenging times of the Coronavirus it’s tempting to get sloppy. But I can assure you from my own experience that when you give in to feeling down it is the start of a slippery slope downwards. You will not care about your plans anymore, about how you look or about what you eat and drink.

What works in your favor? What will work against it?

Spend your time before breakfast doing some exercises

One of every three mobile owners looks at their phone during the night. Almost 50% of people look at their mobile first thing in the morning. In reality this means that other people – the journalists of the news or the ones sending you whatsapps or emails – decide what your mood will be.

For instance, you get frustrated because the news isn’t good (as it never is, because otherwise it wouldn’t have made it to the news). 

Or someone asks for your help. And now you’re distracted to think of ways to comply. Mind you, it’s great that someone cares enough about you to ask for help. And you should help. But most of the time it’s not good to be informed in the middle of the night or in the early morning. You’d better start the day right and help yourself first.

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Is true happiness possible in times like this?

Is true happiness possible in times like this?

These are trying times. With many people in lockdown, this is a major drain on our mental health. Even when life hasn’t changed that much, like Tom’s and mine, it is obvious that the mere fact we can’t do as we please causes discomfort and confusion.

Is true happiness possible in times like this? I think it is, but let’s be honest and realistic – it asks for more effort.

Effort? Isn’t being happy not just something you are or are not?

Many people who struggle in life often belittle happiness and like to claim that true happiness is not even possible at all. Trying times or not. 

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Happiness is more than thinking positive thoughts

What have neuromarketing and epigenetics to do with happiness and positive thoughts

When someone asks me “What defines your happiness?”, then for me it’s often studying and learning new things. Last year my focus point was neuromarketing. This year it is epigenetics

Those 2 disciplines both have the primal brain as their object of study. Neuromarketing got my interest from a business point of view, where epigenetics triggers me on a personal level.

Epigenetics is a new discipline that studies the influence of our environment and our behavior on the activation of genes. It shows that anything we do, eat, drink or think can make us stronger or weaker. 

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Statistics that get us off guard

Statistics. In these turbulent times the media throw one statistic after the other at us. Every statistic is countered by a ‘culture of skepticism’. This skepticism is understandable, but not very productive.

It’s not easy to produce reliable statistics and often not very easy to understand their significance. More specifically so when statistics try to grapple everyday changes, as with the covid-19-pandemia.

But before you think this blog is about the reliability and validity of statistics, its not. It just wants to throw some light on how statistics became an intricate part of our everyday life. 

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